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WomenCrushEveryday

WomenCrushEveryday

The power of women gathering is immeasurable.

Hey, hey!!!! It’s February loves!!! *no pun intended lol* 2018 for me…my God, if I could put it
in words…mind-blowing and spiritually stressed, along with heightened joy and peace. Yes, plenty
of words but it’s so TRUE! This year is already crazy, but there will be tons of success for me…and you, too!!! I have realized that we are in the “Season of the Woman.” After centuries of mistreatment and
‘intentional’ invisibility from the others, we are finally coming out LOUD into the open!! Hear us ROAR!! *making weak imitations of a lion, but more like a low-key injured blue whale* Lately, I’ve been coming across PLENTY of women-empowered events that I’ve had the pleasure to be a part of. We are just in February and I feel this movement will require us to be purpose-driven. A movement where we don’t look towards man or society for approval. A movement where we look at other women with love and support, instead of pride and envy. A movement where we are comfortable and embrace ourselves for who we are! Not only do I feel this, my inner circle of sisters are going through similar life situations as me. I have this beautiful comfort that relieves me saying, “You are not alone.” Through my book club, brunches, meet-ups, bible studies, and etc., we go through our share of struggles. Whether if it’s depression, body image, rejection, or fear, we are here for one another.

Since we can’t do life alone and I’m a strong advocate of empowering women: we need to ‘step out our box’ and handle the situation! HERE are some creative ways to bring about ‘women empowering women’:

Start a common interest group. 

If you are a people-loving person (like myself lol), you can start a group with something most women will have in common and enjoy. It could be cooking, creating a book club, movies, whatever you want!! We should have strong bonds and ties with other women, this is where sisterhood comes in. With me, this is why I started the Feminine Vigor Book Club. I love to read and I want to bond and build with other women who took a strong interest with reading. I had no idea that many women loved to read like me! I believe that it is successful because the connection that all the women are building with each other and it is BEAUTIFUL TO  SEE!

 


ARRANGE A “COFFEE DATE”.

This is my favorite tactic (oh yes, I said tactic) to get close/bond with people and get down to deep rooted issues. Set a calm  atmosphere (coffee spots are MY THING), order yummy treats, and open the floor for great conversations!! Sometimes, small groups are nice for this type of setting, but one-on-ones are PROSPEROUS! You can laugh, rant, or cry….this is the opportunity to let go and be free to be yourself! With my own set-ups, I do attend women-empowered gatherings.  On Tuesday nights, I dedicate my time with my dear friend’s non-profit organization’s Diva Sessions Diva Demeanor where we release our frustrations, restore with support, and set out goals to conquer. Go Jasmine (I roll with cool chicks)! Make sure to check out the link to get in and I will see you there or you can create some “coffee date” time. By the way, if you are in Houston, my favorite coffee spots are in the Houston Heights area (pretty much all of their coffee is BAE!)

HAVE A RETREAT DAY.

Along with empowerment, self-care is IMPORTANT to our physical, mental, and spiritual being. I had the greatest time at a local retreat day held by a beautiful blogger with a big heart for uplifting women. Valaencia is a Houston lifestyle blogger who throws one of the best events that I’ve ever been to in the city. Valaencia’s Website! With her latest event, I won tickets to her Glittered in Goals’ Let’s Heal event!!! This is my season of winning tickets to events, in the name of Jesus! It was the bomb.com!! There was motivational speakers, a professional masseuse team (my first one!), and yoga…..plus, I met my other blogger sisters that I follow from social media!  That is a beautiful recipe of RELAXATION! As women, we need to unravel our minds and tend to our bodies….don’t neglect them! You can do it BIG like Valaencia or go on a walk with friends and attend a yoga class together. Wake yourselves. Here is some candids of the event:




GIVE A SHOUTOUT!

There is nothing like showing love by spreading our love for others!! A compliment really goes a loooong way! I find it more genuine when a woman compliments me more than a guy. We rarely question the motives behind the compliment. In this world, it is rarely done and it is an awe-inspiring moment. With the popular hashtag, WCW, woman crush Wednesday is known to show and celebrate the “Instagram-model” type chicks. Beauty is beauty, but what about the beauty in loving others and the beauty in loving our community?? Let’s showcase those women, the ones that are making the change!! Whether if it’s a social media post of them, sending a text/email, a handwritten card….those things might seem little to us, but will make an impact to those we show love to. My girl, Videllia, hailing from the ‘Triple D” Dallas, has a segment on her social media accounts and website called WCW Spotlight.  She gives every lady an opportunity to shine, which is simply amazing to me!! Worry less about competing and more about achieving!!! You can sign yourself or another Queen on her website, just click on the pic for the link!! Her Instagram is only1lady_V, just to let you know!


HAVE A PHOTO SHOOT!

Photo shoots is a CARE-FREE ZONE! This is where the fun comes in: creativity, courage, bonding, and encouragement. My friends did a photoshoot a few weeks back and it was STUNNING! Then, my new blogger group gave an invite to take some pictures (mostly, for our blogs lol). Taking pictures and being a model takes things to a new perspective. Warning: It is a ‘confidence-high’! No one is at the low end on the bar. The photographer and the model brings the product to LIFE! You have to motivate each other to bring something raw, beautiful, and edgy to the picture. You don’t have to be America’s Top Model to achieve this. Get some friends, pick a location with good lighting, and have some fun!!


I hope that this can encourage you to put yourself out there to motivate others! Tell that woman that she looks great today as you’re walking down the street, invite the lady over to your lunch table if she is eating alone. You have sooo much power in your frame that needs to be unleashed into this world! Don’t waste your life! Take that WCW meaning and intensify it to something more powerful.

Think of ‘woman crush Wednesday’ to ‘women CRUSHING IT EVERYDAY’! That’s what we do, we kill it!

I love you ladies soooo much and this post is dedicated to the women out there crushing it EVERYDAY! If you have the opportunity to, please share this post on your social media handles! We need to spread the message of POWER!

Empowered women, empower women.

Love and Blessings.

Shellsy

Old Ties, New Year: An Ode to Self and 2017

Old Ties, New Year: An Ode to Self and 2017

Hi Everyone!!!

Long time no see, I know.

Life happens, which is pretty much all of our story. Yes, it happens but you’re NOT supposed to let it consume you.

I did.

I love my website. Looking over my recent posts and all of the pictures that I rendered, it brought back beautiful sparks of the things I love. Things that I longed for is displayed throughout this website and there are more great things in store for 2018.

During my 4-month hiatus (no post since summer), I have and (still) going through emotional and spiritual battles.

Barton Creek, Austin

Just to name a few, I have gone through my shares of depression, insecurities with my career and finances, past distractions, being far away from my support/bestfriend/sister (the #1 person in my life, besides God), family secrets/burdens….shucks, I disappoint myself constantly because I KNOW what I possess and where I’m destined to go. Yet, I have failed.

I don’t live for myself, I live for something bigger. If I rely only myself and my own strength, I will not make it in this life.

As of now, I’m really getting a glimpse of life and taking advantage of my opportunities (plus MAKING MY OWN OPPORTUNITIES) because of my grandmother withering away from breast cancer. Pastor John Gray, a minister in Houston, said something profound that still sticks to me, “I reach Heaven, yet the Father shakes His head because He said that I had great things planned for you, but you didn’t complete them.

How would you feel if you missed out on the biggest moment in your life because you didn’t say yes? …that’s my biggest fear.

Most people do not say yes because there are things that we don’t want to experience in the process.

Let’s be honest, who wants to go through pain, failure, rejection, abandonment, loneliness, and sadness? Nobody.

But…..if it wasn’t for opposition in our lives we wouldn’t be where we are today. Opposition pushes us to our position.

Yes, I have opposition but I will use that to propel me higher to where I need to be.

Not only will I have to say yes, I have to take action with what I say.

My mom gave me a fortune cookie yesterday, I was a bit excited for my fortune inside (like who eats the cookie?? lol) Just like astrology, I don’t give it much attention, but it’s funny how these fortunes tend to be right on time with things.

It said, Focus on your long-term goal. Don’t hesitate to act now.”

The new year will start in a few hours. I know there will be tons of vision board parties, prayer and fastings, goal listings, etc.

Just keep in mind to ACT NOW on what you said and ACT NOW on the process.

I’m right there with you.

Be on the look out on the many things I have set for 2018…there will be travel, food, books…..

(did I mention, that I have a book club here in Houston?? Thanks, opposition lol) and MORE.

……it’s going to be BIG!

 

Happy New Year Everyone!!!!

Joy and Blessings to you,

Shellsy M.

 

 

Oh, Austin…..

Oh, Austin…..

To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist….that is all.

Oscar Wilde

Experiencing where you are can bring a new perspective to your world. Usually, when you decide to travel the world, you want to go far away from your surroundings. In my case, Western Europe (France, UK, Spain, etc.), China, Indonesia, Japan, and Africa. I want to create great experiences in my world travels like my 2-hour hammock resting and yoga in Bali, life as a monk in a monastery and sushi making in Japan, and so much more!

I get so caught up in all the hype, that I forget about my own backyard. Shucks, I’m ashamed of myself, the U.S. is truly beautiful and each state possess their own unique qualities.

For instance, the great Lone Star State…..my state….TEXAS! In my 27 years of life, I’ve only been to Austin ONE TIME previous to this trip. It’s only 2 hours away from Houston, buuuut I didn’t go alone. I went with my awesome coworkers from my job, which made it twice as fun! My short-term narrrow mind didn’t know that I could take such a beautiful picture of a flower tree (flower unknown to this day) on a hiking trail in central Austin………Ta-da! >>>

Eclectic Food…Live Music…Hiking…SXSW…Chill People…Cool Vibes…      Austin is the total opposite of the stereotypical Texas (cowboys, horses, etc.), which is why we ‘Keep Austin Weird’.

 

Day 1

More like half a day….didn’t get there until around 8:30 and I didn’t eat ALL DAY! First things first…BBQ. We go to the U.S. famed, award-winning The Salt Lick Barbeque, known for the All You Can Eat Ribs, Brisket and Sausage and the not-so-ordinary BBQ Sauce. It was really good, not great. Meat is one thing for me, but sides are my favorite! Unfortunately, they only have 3 sides (beans, coleslaw, and potato salad). I had the brisket and sausage plate with double potato salad and beans, I haaaaaaaate coleslaw. The sausage and the potato salad was the best thing on my plate. I prefer my meat to be a bit more cooked and smoky from the pit. The beans was the worst ever…..it was just beans on a plate. I’m telling you…onions, bell peppers….shucks, even salt and pepper can go a loooong way with those beans. Yes, I’m a palm tree, I’m shading. Besides my disappointment with the beans, the golden yellow barbeque sauce was amazing to me, the original and spicy recipe, was A1! ……No wonder why they sell it worldwide.

What made the night go even more lovely was our beloved, cozy accommodation (sarcasm included).  The property is cute, quaint, and very “homey’. Now, the inside is a whole different story. (Brace yourselves, graphic descriptions. Well, for me, I remember VISUALS.) The door…..the door is rachet as heck broke. Our AirBnB host left notes and texts about the door with ways on how to open the door and lock it. Ugh. The studio can only fit 3 people in my opinion, not 5 as listed. It had a kitchenette, bathroom (open razor and soap in shower, dirty!), and a queen size bed (that broke down 3 times, which states I’m fat lol plus stains on the sheets, DIRTY!). I rate the place 2 out of 5, the 2 stars is for the property being 5 minutes from Downtown, besides that ZERO. You get my point. Notes on picking the right AirBnB: LOOK AT REVIEWS, location of the property, don’t depend heavy on pictures (pictures can be manipulated, not people), and money does weigh in with quality. If you want a 5 star, penthouse in a downtown area, be ready to spend a little more. 

One thing that I fell in love with was the old school gas heater (I’m a fan of nostalgic things).     

Now, since Day 2 consists plenty of info (a full day!)…..I will make a PART 2 of my time in Austin. So, stay tuned with that!!

To end this post, I leave you with a beautiful video of me ATTEMPTING to properly light a gas heater. Enjoy! …..and no one was harmed during the taping of this video.

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