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Old Ties, New Year: An Ode to Self and 2017

Old Ties, New Year: An Ode to Self and 2017

Hi Everyone!!!

Long time no see, I know.

Life happens, which is pretty much all of our story. Yes, it happens but you’re NOT supposed to let it consume you.

I did.

I love my website. Looking over my recent posts and all of the pictures that I rendered, it brought back beautiful sparks of the things I love. Things that I longed for is displayed throughout this website and there are more great things in store for 2018.

During my 4-month hiatus (no post since summer), I have and (still) going through emotional and spiritual battles.

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Just to name a few, I have gone through my shares of depression, insecurities with my career and finances, past distractions, being far away from my support/bestfriend/sister (the #1 person in my life, besides God), family secrets/burdens….shucks, I disappoint myself constantly because I KNOW what I possess and where I’m destined to go. Yet, I have failed.

I don’t live for myself, I live for something bigger. If I rely only myself and my own strength, I will not make it in this life.

As of now, I’m really getting a glimpse of life and taking advantage of my opportunities (plus MAKING MY OWN OPPORTUNITIES) because of my grandmother withering away from breast cancer. Pastor John Gray, a minister in Houston, said something profound that still sticks to me, “I reach Heaven, yet the Father shakes His head because He said that I had great things planned for you, but you didn’t complete them.

How would you feel if you missed out on the biggest moment in your life because you didn’t say yes? …that’s my biggest fear.

Most people do not say yes because there are things that we don’t want to experience in the process.

Let’s be honest, who wants to go through pain, failure, rejection, abandonment, loneliness, and sadness? Nobody.

But…..if it wasn’t for opposition in our lives we wouldn’t be where we are today. Opposition pushes us to our position.

Yes, I have opposition but I will use that to propel me higher to where I need to be.

Not only will I have to say yes, I have to take action with what I say.

My mom gave me a fortune cookie yesterday, I was a bit excited for my fortune inside (like who eats the cookie?? lol) Just like astrology, I don’t give it much attention, but it’s funny how these fortunes tend to be right on time with things.

It said, Focus on your long-term goal. Don’t hesitate to act now.”

The new year will start in a few hours. I know there will be tons of vision board parties, prayer and fastings, goal listings, etc.

Just keep in mind to ACT NOW on what you said and ACT NOW on the process.

I’m right there with you.

Be on the look out on the many things I have set for 2018…there will be travel, food, books…..

(did I mention, that I have a book club here in Houston?? Thanks, opposition lol) and MORE.

……it’s going to be BIG!

 

Happy New Year Everyone!!!!

Joy and Blessings to you,

Shellsy M.

 

 

Me/Myself: The Struggle of My Life & My Passion

Me/Myself: The Struggle of My Life & My Passion

What happens when your world is in CONSTANT conflict with your purpose in life? Do you back down, do you take the hits, or DO YOU FIGHT BACK?!?? Lord knows that I love hard….but I fight just as hard. So, the obvious answer is YES, I Do Fight! Not physical (of course), but I fight for my beliefs, my character, and my passions.

For those new to my journey, I made a career change that lead to a new lifestyle. Quick Review! I did my first solo trip in Nov. 2016 (whoa, epiphany moment!), new eyes towards my purpose in traveling, quit my main income job to put more time towards my website and traveling. A lifestyle that almost everyone in my life didn’t like at all…..some of them don’t know what I do now. They know my passion for travel, buuuuut the solo part is always missing from my conversations. When they think traveling the world, it’s always in reverence of bad stereotypical movies, Taken and Hostel. (I can just hear some of my family members right now, ‘Don’t get taken!’ *giving serious side eye*) 

First OFF! (THIS SEGMENT HAS MOVIE SPOILERS AND A RANT, YOU ARE MORE THAN WELCOME TO SKIP THIS PART)

For that Taken movie, that whole situation could have been easily AVOIDED, if that promiscuous girl didn’t tell ALL of their business on where they stayed AND that they were alone ALL WEEK to that creepy guy. Why not have a banner for all to see?? Dodson_sings <<<< My Reaction to Stupidity

As for Hostel, AGAIN AVOIDABLE, it was unprofessional and just plain creepy from the get go. If I see a couple in one room, then the next night see a group of masculine guys in black throw all of their stuff in a trash bag??!?!?? I’m jetting that night! Fooooorgeeeeeet that!! I’m not saying that things such as trafficking and weird secret elite cults don’t happen in the world, but one thing you should possess as a traveler is wisdom. It can’t get you out of all situations, but it can take you out of most of them.

*OK!! BACK TO MY LIFE OF SOLO TRAVEL WOES!*

I come from a family that is comfortable with the ‘norm’. Normal job, normal interests, normal life. Pretty much like this >>>>>>>>>>>>>5450039845_5022b1a0c2

And, I’m this girl pretty much >>>>>916272pleasantville_1998_hdclub_mkv_11_24_331_000032Now that we have a visual, do you see where the struggle is? Recognizing and accepting what’s different.

How do you deal with it?….What do you do? Consistent questions in my life. I keep in mind that everyone is here for different things. We possess a set of skills and talents for something bigger than ourselves.

If you are going through a similar situation, here is a couple of things that I would advise:                                                                                             1. Know who you are and don’t let ANYONE take that away from you! People will come in to change you and/or distract (even family), but stay focused and keep your eyes on the prize.                                            2. Take heed, but don’t always take in! This is where wisdom comes in. Your blessings and affirmations can come in from familiar and unfamiliar places. You have free will, you can sow it into your life or leave it be. Make sure that it’s for you, for that time!                                    3. In spite of, ALWAYS have love. Sometimes, this can be tough for me and my current situation with my family. Blood is thicker than water, which can be really good and really bad, be ready for both sides. Words from your family can affect your life, knowingly and unknowingly. It’s up to you to take it or leave it be. Spiritually, our hearts possess our emotions and desires. If you taint it with hate, it will affect your innermost self! Your passion, your purpose, your life is plagued!

From experience, I strongly encourage love AT ALL TIMES.

I know it’s tough for those out there going through the same thing, but WE CAN DO THIS TOGETHER!  

You can’t change people or their attitudes, but you CAN control your actions towards it.

Please share with others, this post holds near and dear to my heart, since I’m sharing a piece of my life with all of you. This just might help someone going through with their loved ones. If you have any questions or comments, you can leave it in the comment section or shoot me an email: mshellsy@yahoo.com.

As always,                                                                                                                 Spread love and travel well.